Shame, Vulnerability, and Resilience

Oh thanks for the references to the military experience, it makes it so clear how it works in me, i wasnt in the forces but recognise, the bite down and get get moving lol xx

Thank you so much for your presence and leadership. The talk was so encouraging, warm and inspiring!

Thank you for recognizing grief within the trauma work, I love the statement “Grief is the gateway” and also appreciate the ref to 12 step programs as helpful communities for working through shame.

Thx. I have not heard of shame resiliance.

This was a wonderful speaker! I wish Deran would start a group for recovering single parents , who are also therapists.

I have so much respect for you and your journey. I saw a demo you did with IFS founder Richard Schwartz and was inspired by the vulnerability you were willing to show before us all.

Wonderful speaker! Deeply resonates with me and the people I see. Thank you for doing the hard work and translating your experience into wisdom.

Thank you for the wonderful insights.

Thank you for your presentation, Deran. Entering into the area of vulnerability and willingness to be open to healing, was an insightful approach which I appreciated more as the time went on. I was led to the sense of having ‘soft eyes’ and compassion towards oneself as a helpful place to move towards a more balanced way of thinking, feeling and acting towards ‘befriending’ the parts we don’t usually like about ourselves. Much appreciated. Thank you.

Thank you for your beautiful authenticity, courage and the multiple gifts you embodied in this presentation.

Thank you for a deeply layered and informative session and for sharing your own healing journey experiences in tandem with those of your clients. That is truly leading from the front. You rock 💚💪🏾

If you’re happy and you know not, clap your hands.

Thank you Deran for your genuine presence and wonderful, informative presentation on vulneraility and resiience..

Amazing presentation, thank you so much. I’ve found that focusing on shame as a body process could be a very useful tool for working through.

Thank you! I love how you spoke about the impact of systems and external factors to the development of shame.

Excellent Sessions

Thanks you so much! 🙂 There is so much I am more curious about from your presentation. One thing that stuck out was the idea of numbing vulnerability through intensity. As I work with neuro-diverse people and the coupling of trauma that often comes with that, I see how the shame around intensity in response can be so real – and how then responses can become more intense in an attempt to block out the layered experience and/or maybe to get someone to lean in and help. Framed in a way that recognizes intensity as maybe a self preserving best effort to protect oneself from vulnerability is an act of self compassion. Then we can go back to figuring out triggers and meeting those experiences with kindness.

Joan says:

June 2, 2023 at 6:16 pm

Gosh, I interpreted the intensity statement as being drawn to intense experiences and activities, example extreme outdoor experiences or physical training.

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This was so wonderful … love the should have already mastered everything and the YOU turn. Thanks you!

Brilliant and relatable presentation.

Fantastic ! so informative excellent speaker

Fantastic presentation, thank you so much. I’m a huge fan of Brene Brown and it was great to see how her work applies in clinical settings.

This talk resonated so much in so many ways. Thank you.

What a great speaker.

Thank you Deran, some wonderful insights and so beautifully presented….SHAME, Should Have Already Mastered Everything, gosh can I relate to that as a shame mantra! It sums it up superbly!