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- Gain a deeper understanding of trauma, shame, and compassion — and the different ways these terms may be interpreted
- Learn how traumatic experiences contribute to the formation of shame, and explore the multifaceted expressions of shame in individuals’ lives, offering insights into its far-reaching impact
- Experience a captivating clinical demonstration, as Dr. Maté employs the transformative method of Compassionate Inquiry to help a client work with shame
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Very powerful demonstration! We are living in a very socially toxic environment now and compassion is a way to change some of the complications, starting individually w developing the growth of loving self compassion.
Thank you!!
Her struggle was palpable.
I don’t appreciate the generalized attribution of shame to the embodiment of illness, such as cancer. I think it is unscientific, irresponsible and wrong-headed, and it’s a shame it is part of Gabor’s body of thought in such a way that it made multiple appearances. (Children, if I may remind the doctor, can develop cancer, diabetes, and other disorders mentioned and attributed to shame.). Please seriously reconsider this line of thought.
Bad things can happen in life, independent of anything we do or don’t do, or that others do or don’t do. Gabor offers pointers to factors that can sometimes play a role. It’s not the whole story and I’m sure he would agree. We are always only speaking of a sliver of reality, despite our best efforts.
I thought it was so good you kept this Demo in. It was very helpfull to see Dr Mate work ( I found him to be compassionate and normalised traumatic responses beautifully) and brave of Chantelle to be honest about her feelings and body sensations. We all have clients where things don’t go as we hope they will and this is a wonderful example of how childhood issues a will continue in the present. It will take time to help resolve that. I hope Chantelle finds relief from her pain both physical and emotional.
I have trained under Gabor and can say that the one year program changed my life and in turn I have been told by my clients I have changed their lives with Believe in Life Change..Thank you Gabor and Chandellle what a courageous person you are – blessings to you on your journey 🙏
He’s incredible, every single time I hear him speak. So far I’ve read only The Myth of Normal – WOW, he hits the nail on the head so many times. I am so grateful for this event with all these listening opportunities!
Thank you shantel for your courage and your being.
This man is a gift to the planet and our species.
Thanks so much Gabor! I am saddened to say that most therapists I have been trying to work with say they work with CPTSD but only have training in CBT. I am exhausted from trying to find therapists trained in CPTSD who also have a specialty in Somatic techniques on my very limited insurance coverage. Any suggestions are welcome 🙂 I am incredibly frustrated as I know I could be healing better, and instead, I am not healing and constantly financially challenged. I know I am not the only one struggling to find a therapist with CPTSD expertise as well as Somatic expertise on their insurance plan. We need many more!
You could check out the Compassionate Inquiry website 🙂
I cried along with Chandelle. I think Dr. Mate has very good instincts but his abrupt manner was off-putting to me. I liked how Dr. Mate said that Chandelle did not have something wrong with her. She did not have a disorder. She had learned what to do to survive as a child and had brought it with her into adulthood (and as an adult she may no longer need it as a survival skill.) I am 71 and have had a panic disorder (Agoraphobia- now nearly gone) for almost 50 years. I have also had dozens and dozens of years of expensive therapy. Once or twice during these years of therapy a therapist told me I was doing something RIGHT. I heard I wasn’t doing anything right for 18 years from my parents (especially from my emotionally abusive alcoholic father.) When I left home I graduated to telling myself I wasn’t capable of doing anything right. This was later reinforced by every therapist I saw. At the begining of this year I started practicing mindfulness and self-compassion. I have become very interested in learning about shame, and expressive writing, and other things that I never learned about in therapy. I think I am finally beginning to accept myself WITH or WITHOUT the limitations my phobias have placed on my life. I don’t think I’ll ever get over ALL of my phobias. Healing to me is being able to say I AM STILL a good person with or without my so-called “weakness.” (AKA: Agoraphobia.) Thank you for your courage Chantelle and best of luck to you. You deserve it. And thank you Dr. Mate for your insight.
Thank you!! I grew up with a mentally ill mom. In the 60s they called it “manic depressive.” One day in 1969 when I was 17, in desperation, my dad took me to see my mom’s psychiatrist because I expressed grave doubt about whether she was really getting help that actually helped. He was an older man, Cuban, and in around 10 minutes he demonstrated unbelievable coldness, ignorance, dismissiveness, total lack of concern for me or my mom, sheer inhumanity in a vile manner. He sneered at me and in an accusatory manner said, “should we just throw her to the wolves?!!”
To this day I can’t make sense of that statement.
Anyway I came out of that office thoroughly understanding my mother’s frustration, anger and despair. And feeling all of that myself. And then watching in shock as my father wrote a check in payment for that unspeakable travesty.
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GM: ‘I will interrupt you sometimes, it’s just how I work… if I interrupt you it’s because I want to help you move the process along… So is it ok with you if I interrupt you sometimes?’ That’s hardly a genuine request for consent.
I echo all the comments about how couragous Chantelle was. I felt such compassion for her! I found much of what Gabor said resonated. But I really disagree that people pleasing and repressing anger is the main source of physical illness. It may be one but in my opinion, one of many. AND as was once said to me: The body has it’s own karma’. As the Buddhists say it is in our nature to become ill. And some of the focus on associating personality characteristics with illness becomes a way of ‘blaming the victim’.