Shame in Relationships: Healing Mistakes, Regret, and Remorse

This was so helpful! I’ve noticed a connection between shame and compulsive behavior. Gabor Mate talks about it in his work with addicts. They experienced trauma as children and were overwhelmed by the shame/inability to reconcile their feelings. Once I understood that connection it helped me see people, even those who had wronged me deeply, in a different light.

Rick Hanson, I admire his devotion, humility .
Very sorry to have missed this series. Anna

Sorry I was not able to join in and wished that the all the videos were available for at least a week rather than 48 hours. Please reconsider.

I appreciate your kind clarification around shame and the impact on relationships. And how to work with it in my own marriage of 46 years. As we age our childhood “demons” keep coming and going. Again, thank you.

I spent a lot of time in a remote area and time alone in the wilderness and this happened to me. thanks

Thanks Rick & Chris,
I know much of your work very well Rick and I experienced this presentation and your shared interaction as very real, embodied and honest. I enjoyed your humility, vulnerability, humor and warmth as you explored shame and shaming in individuals and couples. Rick, your tentative exploratory stance and suggested options were very valuable indeed. Thank you both again.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and wisdom.

every thanks for sharing your expertise.
much appreciated.
Jenny

Value in helping the partner mindfully notice the efforts/changes, and notice the associated feelings (eg fear to trust etc)…

Thank you Rick and Chris for this wonderful conversation. I’ m married since 10 year with my husband that unfortunately he’ is an alcoholic. I went trough a lots of sad and dramatic moments related to his behavior and I’m suffering a lots. Do you have any suggestion for me to help my self? Books, podcast… Thank you
Kindly Bella

Thank you for this profound conversation. What really stood out for me is how we, as therapists, react to power dynamics when it comes to the skills we bring in the therapeutic process. It makes me reflect of the importance of self-awareness to bring in humility as a therapeutic process – not the expert, but a support system. Thank you! Thank you!!!

Thank you for this broad and deep conversation – very helpful.

two real menches

He’s a knowledgeable clinician, no doubt. But I sense a lack of respect when he talks about clients. Doesn’t sit well with me.

Thank you, I appreciate so much this wonderful conversation.

I appreciate the distinction made between the mind’s integrity system and the being’s integrity system. Powerful

This was a really meaningful conversation, thank you! Personally, a lot that resonates with me in my current situation, for which I’m grateful.

Always enjoy everything Rick shares and so nice to hear all your insights as well, Chris. Undoubtedly, always so grateful how listening to this, annd with such calming tones 😌, also helps me in any and all roles! 🙏 Counselor’s dream talks, people. 😁

Thank you for this. One of the points to think about I take away is How do I work with my professional skills in a way that doesn’t drive the other person away by threatening or intimidating them? And what is my relationship with my skills in the first place?