- Discover the inverse relationship between shame and self-compassion, supported by theory and empirical evidence.
- Identify mechanisms through which self-compassion alleviates trauma and shame.
- Practice simple, safe skills to alleviate trauma associated with shame.
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Beautifully! Thank you Chris Germer
I was interested when behaviours for self were included More real
Thank you so much for this insight. Even as a non clinical mindfulness trainer it made me recognice that my Taiji- and Qi Gong practice is a wonderful way of experiencing both, soft and fierce selfcompassion.
And how careful I have to be working trauma-informed now. DANKE! from Austria
The compassionate U-turn is such a powerful practice!
I love the way this therapy focuses on the response to the trauma rather than just revisiting the trauma again.
The concept of the inverse relationship between shame and self compassion was new to me. It brings back memories of therapy twenty years ago that focused on relieving the shame experienced by alcoholics.
Thank you for this session.
So great, so clear. This work and these practices are nothing short of a life-line. Been cultivating them for many years now on my healing parh. So grateful : )
Thank you for an interesting and helpful presentation. I took note of some of the references.
Thank you so much Christopher, for this session self compassion, I have learned a lot, I never saw shame inthis perspective
Listening from Gombe state northeast Nigeria
Loved this- thank-you!
Wonderful, so rich, full of valuable information, thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge.
Thank you!
This was an excellent talk. I have learnt a lot as a Therapist and will definitely share with my clients. Thank you, Dr. Christopher Germer.
excellent talk thank you
Wow! I barely deviated my attention from the presentation. I actually, kept on going back and taking notes. Congratulations, Dr. Christopher Germer, and a big thank you!
Wonderful presentation! Thank you.
Absolutely amazing and informative thank you
Really well explained and I’m going to try to take a look at the research papers mentioned. The exercises for ourselves to do first are really good! Shame is such a powerful and challenging emotion, particularly in ptsd survivors and Chris Germer has gathered so much powerful info to help move from shame to self compassion.
I love the practices. He has explained so well and broken down the concepts in a comprehensible way
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Learn to lean in or lean out.
…v transformative, just to look at shame & self compassion as inverse of each other, & the presence of backdraft, & ways to address them with v practical doable self compassionate inquiry helps so much! a v deep bow…..🙏🙏🙏
In feeling shame I feel angry with myself
I regret and admonish myself
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom and for the practices and your presence
This was an excellent talk. It explained some of the pieces of the puzzle in more detail. I really appreciate him and all of us that are working so hard to change things for the better.
Absolute stellar session!!!!!
Shame (about appearance) is a debilitating emotion for people with body dysmorphic disorder. Shame can come from childhood trauma. Self-compassion can help people forgive themselves and others and move beyond shame and trauma.
Many thanks for sharing your wisdom on self compassion; the presentation was so very engaging and easy to follow. I feel grateful and blessed to be able to listen
I am so grateful and honor by the fantastic information and articles mention.
Mmm… ‘shame can cause trauma, and trauma can cause shame’. Thankyou for those two distinctions. I was really looking forward to this talk as I see in my somatic therapy practice, with myself and clients, that indeed shame is such a key piece in the healing process, and one of the hardest, ikyiest, often multi-layered feelings to feel. I often say ‘shame is just a sensation’, if we can dis-entangle the sensations (felt sense) from the mental/ emotions meaning, and bring loving presence to it and other trauma integrations tools. Its so so key 🙂
Loved the example of ‘gossiping about someone and sending them the email by accident hahaha’. Thanks for this really great and important talk and for sharing your personal story about overcoming public speaking 🙂 very inspiring.
Thank you for so clearly laying out all the elements then linking together and back to self as therapist. For the 3 practices too!
Very helpful.
“Self-compassion is the antidote to shame in trauma.”
1. Mindfulness vs rumination
2. Connection vs isolation
3. Self-kindness vs self-criticism
“Love reveals everything unlike itself.”
The informational nature along with practical “how to’s” were SO helpful for using with clients who are feeling stuck due to shame/trauma. Excited to put these to practice! Thank you so much.
I am most delighted to understand that shame and self compassion are opposite. Knowing that the first step in dealing with shame to is to be aware of shame and to have self compassion is a great take away for me.
Disappointed that there were no slides for visual learners.
Sorry about that Barbara, they are in there now.
Oh & i wanted to comment on the disconnect to shame. I had such an experience (& have seen it on other occasions since) when i did a short intensive DBT program some years ago while in the midst of an ongoing traumatic situation. Having myself recently (at the time) worked in a psychiatric hospital running groups for several years, i think i put on my encouraging/people pleasing group leader persona, unfortunately, which perhaps kept me from feeling too much during the DBT group meetings as i became more focused on caring about the other members. Each day when we went around the group for a 1-word check-in, everyone seemed to note shame on several occasions. I noted and i think even commented once that i didnt feel shame & it wasnt an emotion i was concerned about or felt much. Clearly i was subconsciously protecting myself as i certainly have felt shame, in response to some awful circumstances & behavior, including during that time in my life. Even now, I am unlikely to feel it in the moment, but it will hit me later, as regret, sadness, or sometimes anger. Your talk and example practices were eye opening as well as so instructive as i work mostly with trauma/PTSD clients. THANK YOU AGAIN FOR BEING A PART OF THIS WONDERFUL SERIES!
Wonderful & appreciated you brought to attention that meditation/mindfulness can be counter;productive ie triggering for some trauma sufferers. Really interesting talk, thank you!
It’s amazing how you put it. I hadn’t ever looked at it from that angle.
Self-compassion: what a basic concept that can offer relief from pain and suffering yet can be so difficult to access in those moments. Thank you for your thorough analysis of shame and how we can work alongside shame in a compassionate way. This was healing for me, personally.
Very helpful and clear ,
I have experienced the benefits of self-compassion,
Many Thanks
I so appreciated this presentation. It helped me name finally, my reactive tendencies. Of course it is Shame. But I would have not known that necessarily. I even have the workbook with Dr. Neff, but had not made the association until now. Thank you so much. I really enjoyed the behavioral suggestions on ways to practice Self Compassion and to learn that Meditation while useful, is not the only way.
Thank you Dr. Germer, this was very insightful for me as an individual and a nurse. So much of your talk resonated with me, including the guided practice that made me realize I still have quite a bit of work to do on showing myself self-compassion. Thank you also for the references!
Thank you so much Sir. Thank you for explaining so clearly concepts of trauma and shame with evidences and exercises.Much helpful and will surely benefit in personal and therapeutic practice . Grateful.
This is wonderful and very educative I learned a lot. Thank you sir.