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- Gain a deeper understanding of shame, including its evolutionary purpose, and the way it is learned through family and culture
- Learn what current research tells us about the link between shame and psychopathology, and the close relationship between shame and trauma
- Discover the power of self-compassion to overcome shame in therapeutic intervention, and how this can be skillfully achieved
Thank you for your wisdom. I feel release.
Thank you very much
Thank you so much for this. Made me understand shame with more clarity.
Thank you 💐
So many gems in this talk. Thank you!!
Une présentation extraordinairement intéressante et puissante.
Monique Drapeau Magog, Province of Quebec, Canada
Thank you very much, Chris, for sharing!
Hearing your talk made my heart warm. Thank you!
You make it so relatable in my journey, and therefore will impact my work with clients too… thank you!
Thank you Chris for this life nurturing and sheltering talk. The power of kindness which someone described as ‘love in plain clothing’.
Deirdre
Thank you very much, Chris, for sharing your wisdom about shame and extending compassion to us!
Thank you very much, very interesting and practical. I’m looking forward to being able to explore my feelings with a newly gained perspective and then practically apply my self compassion practice.
Glad I get to listen to this one again- my favorite. Such an eye opening
amendment to my prior comment: it now seems to me that to reiterate self/other compassion as a “new” kind of psychotherapy causes me to ask what kind of “psychotherapy” was being practiced by him ( and by inference , others) if same did not include at its core, self and other compassion? if one cannot love oneself and ones patients/clients then imo, they are in the wrong profession for them…while what he has to say has some value, i urge folks to recognize that lack of self compassion , presence of so called “backdraft” when people receive/experience compassion , points to the often ignored degree of pain we and our patients/clients have experienced; better to get that as so for then, there is a real chance of compassion arising at least enough to prompt more recognition of loving needs; btw, he said a baby has as its “job” to get more love; no baby has that as a job..he flatly ignores , altho i do not think he did so by intention, that it is the parents/caretakers who need to be able to offer love- and often cannot because of their own wounding…please, consider that the depth of wounding for many is great; there are no shortcuts to the courageous efforts to help one another heal.
Beautiful. Thank you so much!
so, reminders of shame, the importance of recognizing/owning the experience are helpful to many albeit not news to some; if his terror of public speaking x20 years was his biggest problem , he is fortunate… more likely, if it was, he has/had other problems that really WERE too terrifying to experience and have long since been out of awareness.. i do not think it advisable to take what he has to say about his public speaking “terror” with any more than a grain of salt for to do so would only serve to suggest to others that very real terror and trauma , still present somatically, need not be addressed
It is simple and brilliant to use “shame” as an umbrella for the emotions of trauma, because it is specifically in relationship to others. Also helpful and profound: that it is not the elusive “Love,” but the simple, “I want to be loved,” that is the healing balm. I also appreciate how this practice empowers the client to make their own observations and retrain themselves.
olivia : what a wonderful capsulation and summary!
Realizing that a negative emotion like rage is actually shame, is actually an expression of the feeling, “I want to be loved,” does lay the foundation for awakening compassion for difficult others who also just want to be loved.
This got me to thinking that in Christianity, the expressions, “God loves you,” or “You are a child of God,” similarly soothe the traumatized soul, and lead to the recognition that others, too, are worthy of love. After all, “Love your neighbor as yourself” explicitly states that self-love comes first, and is then extended to others. Likewise, in Buddhism, the Dalai Lama expresses this as, “All beings, like you, want to be happy.”
Thank you so much, Chris! It was super inspiring for me. I felt your tender kindness
Excellent enlightening talk – thank you !
Admire the clarity of presenter and presentation. Gave me new perspective of looking inside my and client’s anxiety, anger and sadness.
Such valuable and clear insights! Thank you!
This was amazing and so informative both as someone trying to implement self-compassion and as a therapist helping others do the same.
Excellent. Thank you.
A wonderful talk thank you. Much food for thought.
Wow, this is so important. I can see this helping out many of my clients & myself! Thank you.
Thank you from deep in my heart for this amazing lecture! I learnt so much and appriciate your loving kindness by sharing your deep knowlage and expierance.
Beautiful- thank you for your message!